Long distance couples tend to handle the big moments well. What gets lost is the ordinary day. These twenty ideas are small and concrete. None of them is a rule, and none is a promise that it will work for you. If you want an app for the first idea, Framekin is a photo widget for Android.
Daily rituals
- Send one photo of the day, whatever it shows.
- Pick a time for a short call and let it be boring.
- Say good night with a voice message instead of text.
- Share what you ate.
Seeing each other's day
- Take a photo of the view from your desk.
- Show the walk home.
- Send the awful parking job.
- Photograph one thing that reminded you of the other person.
Shared plans
- Plan a trip together, even a small one.
- Pick a show and watch an episode a week at the same time.
- Read the same book and swap notes.
- Cook the same recipe on the same evening.
Time zones and calls
- Write down both local times next to the contact.
- Agree on a call window that suits both of you.
- Let some calls be silent, with both of you doing your own thing.
Visits and countdowns
- Put a countdown to the next visit on your phone. The countdown widget guide shows how.
- Plan the first hour of the visit in advance.
- Keep a list of things to do together when you meet.
- Save one small thing to show in person.
- After a visit, plan the next one before you leave.
A photo widget as one idea
Idea 1 is easier when the photo goes straight to the other person's home screen. A photo widget such as Framekin does that. Senorit makes Framekin. It is an Android app, and new customers get a 14-day free trial of Plus and Max, after which it needs a plan. More in how a photo widget helps long distance couples and what to ask before choosing an app.
When it feels hard
Distance is hard some weeks. Say so to each other. If it weighs on you for a long time, talk to someone you trust or a counsellor. This list is no replacement for that.
Questions and answers
What can long distance couples do together?
Watch the same show, read the same book, cook the same meal or plan a trip.
How do you keep a long distance relationship interesting?
Share small things from your day, and keep a visit in sight.
How often should long distance couples talk?
There is no rule. Find a rhythm that suits both of you.